Sunday, January 3, 2016

Walang Forever? Is love not forever?

Walang Forever? Is love not forever? Picture credit: "Walang Forever" by Source (WP:NFCC#4). Licensed under Fair use via Wikipedia.


A. WALANG FOREVER MOVIE
 
Last night I watched the film, Walang Forever, starring Jericho Rosales and Jennylyn Mercado. Wikipedia has provided a snippet of the story:
Mia, a celebrated writer of romantic-comedy films, is at a turning point in her life which makes it difficult for her to believe that love could last. Everything comes to a head when Ethan returns, only for her to find out that he has become a cynic of lasting love because she broke his heart. (Wikipedia: Walang Forever)
I won't provide spoilers, but here's a perfect gist of the story courtesy of a love song, Maybe This Time:
Two old friends meet again
Wearin' older faces
And talk about the places they've been

Two old sweethearts who fell apart
Somewhere long ago
How are they to know
Someday they'd meet again
And have a need for more than reminiscin'

Maybe this time
It'll be lovin' they'll find
Maybe now they can be more than just friends
She's back in his life
And it feels so right
Maybe this time, love won't end

 B. IS LOVE NOT FOREVER?

"Maybe this time, love won't end." Can love really end? Is there no such thing as forever in love?


1. Love is a feeling

If love is a feeling, then feelings end, and so can love. As the song, Feelings by Morris Albert, goes:
Feelings, nothing more than feelings
Trying to forget my feelings of love
Teardrops rolling down on my face
Trying to forget my feelings of love
Love should not be based on feelings, because feelings are  shaky like sand, so a relationship cannot be based on feelings alone. As Christ said in his parables regarding the house built on sand:
* “Everyone who listens to these words of mine and acts on them will be like a wise man who built his house on rock.r 25The rain fell, the floods came, and the winds blew and buffeted the house.s But it did not collapse; it had been set solidly on rock. 26And everyone who listens to these words of mine but does not act on them will be like a fool who built his house on sand. 27The rain fell, the floods came, and the winds blew and buffeted the house. And it collapsed and was completely ruined.”  (Mt 7:24-27)

2. Love is a will

If love is a will--"to will the good of another," as Aquinas said--then it is possible for love to last until death through a vow before God:
In the United States, Catholic wedding vows may also take the following form:[4]

    I, ____, take you, ____, to be my lawfully wedded(husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.

The priest will then say aloud "You have declared your consent before the Church. May the Lord in his goodness strengthen your consent and fill you both with his blessings. What God has joined, men must not divide. Amen."[5] (Wikipedia: Marriage Vows)

3. Love after death
 
But what about after death? Can the love of the husband and wife still exist after their death? The movie only tried to answer the possibility of love before death, of choosing to love the person even in the face of inevitable death, knowing that the beloved will die sooner, and all you have is but a few days or weeks or months, but not years. And yet the heart longs for a love that is forever, that all our hurts will be gone, and someday we shall still meet our beloved, even if that someday is more than a lifetime.

In the Lord of the Rings, there is only a hope that those who belong to the race of Mortal Men would still have a new life after death, but beyond the circles of the world, as decreed by God (Illuvatar). If this is true then love can be forever, as we can see from the dialogue of Arwen and Aragorn before the latter's death:
Arwen: But I say to you, King of the Numenorians, not till now have I understood the tale of your people and their fall.  As wicked fools I scorned them, but I pity them at last.  For if this indeed, as the Eldar say, the gift of the One to Men, it is bitter to receive.
Aragorn: So it seems...But let us not be overthrown at the final test,, who of old renounced the Shadow and the Ring. In sorrow we must go, but not in despair. Behold! we are not bound for ever to the circles of the world, and beyond them is more than memory. Farewell!
In the New Testament, we know from Christ's words that the marriage of a husband and wife is terminated after death, yet they still exist, because our souls are eternal:
 On that day Sadducees approached him, saying that there is no resurrection.* They put this question to him, 24g saying, “Teacher, Moses said, ‘If a man dies* without children, his brother shall marry his wife and raise up descendants for his brother.’ 25Now there were seven brothers among us. The first married and died and, having no descendants, left his wife to his brother. 26The same happened with the second and the third, through all seven. 27Finally the woman died. 28Now at the resurrection, of the seven, whose wife will she be? For they all had been married to her.” 29* Jesus said to them in reply, “You are misled because you do not know the scriptures or the power of God. 30At the resurrection they neither marry nor are given in marriage but are like the angels in heaven." (Mt 22:23-30
Priest: (Name), do you take (name) to be your wife? Do you promise to be true to her in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love her and honor her all the days of your life?
Groom: I do.
Priest: (Name), do you take (name) to be your husband? Do you promise to be true to him in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love him and honor him all the days of your life?
Bride: I do.
- See more at: http://catholicweddinghelp.com/topics/catholic-wedding-vows.htm#sthash.Lkd5y382.dpuf
Because our souls are eternal with intelligence and will, and love is to will the good of another, then it is possible for souls to continue loving after death. After all, the reason why we can love forever is because God is Love. If God is forever, then so is love. In heaven, we shall behold God not only as the Greek ideal of the True, the Good, and Beautiful, but also as Love. Love is a Unity yet at the same time a Trinity: the Lover (Father), the Beloved (Son), and the Love between Them (Holy Spirit).

Merong forever because God is forever and God is love. This is the good news of Christianity: merong forever, love is forever. It is only in Atheism na walang forever: there is no forever in love. And this is sad. The tragedy of hell is not really the pain of hell fire, but the pain of loss: of knowing that Someone (God) loves us and yet we chose not to love, and our decision was made irrevocable after death. Walang forever for love in Hell, but our suffering of remorse is forever. Merong forever and ever and ever. Such a heartbreak can only be approximated by the song, Clementine:
Oh my Darling, Oh my Darling,
Oh my Darling Clementine.
You are lost and gone forever,
Dreadful sorry, Clementine.
 
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