Sunday, March 30, 2014

3 reasons why Daniel Padilla should give up his relationship with Kathryn Bernardo

We read from Yahoo Celebrity Philippines that converting from Catholic to Iglesia ni Cristo is an option for Daniel Padilla for the sake of Kathryn Bernardo:
 Daniel Padilla respects Kathryn Bernardo's religious beliefs, but he would rather let nature take its course when it comes to having a relationship with her. Kathryn, a member of the Iglesia ni Cristo church, said in a previous press conference that she can’t have a relationship with someone who does not belong to the same faith. This can be a problem for Daniel, who was born and raised a Catholic. Is he willing to convert for Kathryn? ...Daniel replied, "Sa future na lang po natin (mapapagdesisyunan iyan). Tignan na lang po natin kung anong pwedeng mangyayari sa future. Siguro hindi pa ako makakapag-decide ngayon. Pero siyempre open naman ako. Diyos pa rin iyon. Bakit naman aayawan." Daniel thinks religion should not be an issue in relationships. “Hindi issue iyon. Ano lang iyan, hindi tayo puwede magdesisyon ngayon."
There are several reasons why Daniel Padilla should give up his real-life relationship with Kathryn Bernardo (if such really exists and not just for the movies) to save his Catholic Faith:

 1. Catholics and Iglesia ni Cristo do not agree on the nature of Christ

Catholics believe that Christ is both human and divine, because he is the Eternal Word, the Second Person of the Trinity, that was made Flesh:
In the beginning* was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.a 2 He was in the beginning with God. 3 * All things came to be through him, and without him nothing came to be. ... And the Word became flesh* and made his dwelling among us, and we saw his glory, the glory as of the Father’s only Son, full of grace and truth. (Jn 1:1-14)
For the Iglesia ni Cristo, the Word here is just a plan or a thought of God and not the Second Person of the Trinity.  This passage in the Gospel of John is interpreted by INC as the fulfillment of God's plan.  For the INC, Jesus is only a mere human just like Felix Manalo.

A religion that teaches Christ is God could never be equally true with a religion that denies his divinity.  There is only one truth, and man could not live upholding two opposites as truth.  As Christ said: "No one can serve two masters. He will either hate one and love the other, or be devoted to one and despise the other." (Mt 6:24). Eternal life is at stake.  You cannot go to heaven by saying Christ is God and at the same time saying that He is not.  As Christ said: "By your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned." (Mt 12:37).  He also said: "I am the way and the truth* and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me." (Jn 14:6).

2. Both the Catholic Church and Iglesia ni Cristo requires that the children will be raised in their respective religions

Iglesia ni Cristo does not allow marriage between an INC member and a non-INC member.  On the other hand, the Catholic Church allows mixed marriages provided the following Canon Laws are satisfied:
  • MIXED MARRIAGES 
  •  Can. 1124 Without express permission of the competent authority, a marriage is prohibited between two baptized persons of whom one is baptized in the Catholic Church or received into it after baptism and has not defected from it by a formal act and the other of whom is enrolled in a Church or ecclesial community not in full communion with the Catholic Church. 
  •  Can. 1125 The local ordinary can grant a permission of this kind if there is a just and reasonable cause. He is not to grant it unless the following conditions have been fulfilled: 1/ the Catholic party is to declare that he or she is prepared to remove dangers of defecting from the faith and is to make a sincere promise to do all in his or her power so that all offspring are baptized and brought up in the Catholic Church; 2/ the other party is to be informed at an appropriate time about the promises which the Catholic party is to make, in such a way that it is certain that he or she is truly aware of the promise and obligation of the Catholic party; 3/ both parties are to be instructed about the purposes and essential properties of marriage which neither of the contracting parties is to exclude. 

  •  Can. 1126 It is for the conference of bishops to establish the method in which these declarations and promises, which are always required, must be made and to define the manner in which they are to be established in the external forum and the non-Catholic party informed about them. §3. It is forbidden to have another religious celebration of the same marriage to give or renew matrimonial consent before or after the canonical celebration according to the norm of §1. Likewise, there is not to be a religious celebration in which the Catholic who is assisting and a non-Catholic minister together, using their own rites, ask for the consent of the parties....  
  • Can. 1128 Local ordinaries and other pastors of souls are to take care that the Catholic spouse and the children born of a mixed marriage do not lack the spiritual help to fulfill their obligations and are to help spouses foster the unity of conjugal and family life.
As you can see, these laws of the Catholic Church are unacceptable to the INC.  Thus, Daniel and Kathryn could never hope to get married unless one of them converts to the other's religion.

 3. It easier to give up the relationship now than later

It is easier for both Daniel Padilla and Kathryn Bernardo to give up their relationship now and treat each other as just like their other friends.  If they are serious in making their relationship last up to marriage and beyond, until death parts them, then they must use the time to study their own faiths and talk about them objectively, without being entangled in a romantic relationship.  The nature of Christ would be a source of endless debates not only between  Daniel and Kathryn, but also of their children and their families.  The tension and animosity shall only simmer down if one of them converts to the other's religion.
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